Ready to reclaim your joy and confidence after heartbreak?
I offer individual counseling in English for adults who are going through breakups, separation, or divorce.
Can you relate?
Life couldn’t get any worse. Or at least it feels like that anyway. It’s been months since they left but you still wake up every morning forgetting for a moment, expecting to see them on the other side of the bed. Then reality hits you like a punch in the stomach – you’re alone.
You force yourself to get through the days – to pay attention at work, to nod and pretend you’re fine when people talk to you. But inside, you’re falling apart. You can’t stop crying. You can’t stop thinking about your ex. You wonder what they’re doing, who they’re with. You wonder if they’ve moved on with someone else now. The thought hurts so much, it’s hard to breathe.
You miss them and hate them at the same time. You want to scream and throw things – and sometimes you do, but it only feels satisfying for a moment. Nothing really helps. You try to numb yourself with your coping method of choice, but you wake up the next morning feeling the same.
You’re left questioning everything. What happened to your relationship? How did the person you loved and thought you knew better than anyone else become a stranger? People tell you that you just need to be strong, that you’ll feel better in time. But you can’t help but wonder – how much time? How long will you have to feel like this?
You don’t have to navigate this alone
I’m Kijai (she/her/hers), an American counselor based in Munich. I offer individual counseling in English for adults who want to heal and grow after breakups, separation, or divorce. With the support of counseling, my clients take practical steps to find more clarity about the past, peace and joy in the present, and confidence for the future. By the time we finish our work together, clients report that they are truly enjoying life again—not just surviving. And when they want to find a new romantic partner, they feel ready and able to date wisely and love well.
A typical counseling session involves processing ALL THE BIG FEELINGS, practicing self-compassion, re-connecting with the person you were before you met your partner(s), and planning ways to manage stress and build support systems. I will give you gentle but direct feedback. I will also check-in regularly throughout our work together about how counseling is feeling for you and about the progress we’re making toward your goals.
As a Black, African-American, queer, cisgender woman, I’m passionate about supporting people with marginalized identities. I welcome clients of all genders, sexualities, racial and ethnic identities, cultural backgrounds, national origins, and relationship styles, including ethical and consensual nonmonogamy.
As a foreigner in Germany navigating an interracial, intercultural marriage and parenting a multiracial, multilingual child, I’m also intimately familiar with some of the ways that living outside one’s country and culture of origin can complicate relationships.
Curious about my professional credentials?
I’m originally from the United States where I worked as a psychotherapist and Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW). I earned my Master’s degree in Clinical Social Work from the Smith College School for Social Work in Northampton, Massachusetts. I wrote my master’s thesis on the importance of asking about and addressing adult clients’ sexual concerns in psychotherapy. I believe that sexuality and sexual health are essential aspects of mental well-being for many clients.
After graduation, I completed a 2-year clinical fellowship focused on helping people heal from relational trauma at the Victims of Violence Program at Cambridge Health Alliance/Harvard Medical School. I then moved to Los Angeles, California where I provided individual and group therapy for mothers recovering from both trauma and addiction. Since 2020, after completing 3,000 hours of supervised clinical work and passing law and ethics exams, I have been certified as a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW #97653) in California.
As a psychological counselor in Germany, I provide depth-oriented, trauma-informed support for adults navigating breakups, separation, or divorce. I tailor my approach to each client’s unique needs, so that counseling feels collaborative, effective, and deeply meaningful. The foundation of my training is in Psychodynamic Psychotherapy, which explores how past experiences and unconscious patterns impact your present. I also have training and experience in the following evidence-based therapies and tools: Gottman Method Couples Therapy, Nonviolent Communication, mindfulness practices, and nervous system regulation.
Frequently asked questions
How much does counseling cost?
€150 per 50-minute session. I work outside the German health insurance system, offering private-pay counseling for those who prefer greater flexibility and confidentiality in their psychological support.
How long are appointments and how often do we meet?
Appointments are 50 minutes long and typically occur on the same day and at the same time each week. I’ve found that weekly sessions provide the consistency and momentum needed for my clients to move out of feeling like they are in crisis and to make meaningful progress. As clients move toward their goals, we adjust the schedule to fit their needs.
Where do we meet?
At this time, I offer online counseling via the GDPR-compliant version of Zoom. Online sessions offer flexibility and convenience, making it easier to prioritize your well-being, no matter how busy life gets or where your travels take you. Many clients also find online counseling grounding, as it allows them to connect from a familiar space and take time to reflect afterward.
What is the process of counseling like?
In our first 1–3 sessions, we will take a full look at what is affecting your well-being and set clear goals for your counseling. The next 3-4 sessions, we will create a toolkit of healthy coping strategies for the challenges that brought you to counseling. In the last part of counseling, we will do the deeper work to understand any patterns that are no longer serving you and to practice new, intentional ways of being with yourself and in relationships.
Ready to take the next step?
If you are feeling lost or stuck after a breakup, separation, or divorce, I invite you to email me at kijai@kijaicorbett.com to schedule a free, 15-minute call to discover how counseling with me can help you move forward and create the life – and love – you want.
